There’s a young woman in the fitness industry who wrote a piece last week that caused quite a stir. I don’t know her personally but I’ve followed her work for a while. Her message is powerful – exactly what women of all ages need but especially those of her generation and younger.
The popular images of women today are still predominantly aligned with a particular notion of what defines fitness, beauty and desirability for a female. Those images spark controversy and more – consider the vitriol surrounding Serena Williams’ powerful and athletic body – but more importantly they distract us. Those images pull us into the realm of comparison – the thief of joy – and steal our attention away from our own body and way of being that feels personal, authentic, and powerful by ownership.
I’m not advocating for her body. My opinion doesn’t matter (and neither does yours). What I want heard and taken to heart is her message:
“Today this is a body that is loved, adored, and cherished by the only person whose opinion matters — ME… This is a kind of freedom I didn’t think I’d ever experience, and it feels really, really good.”
Consider the freedom she speaks of. Consider it for yourself. What would change if you lived in that freedom for a day? A month? Year? Do you have a daughter? What if she lived by this?
Many women I work with are still driven by the thief of joy. Others have relaxed into the freedom and peace that Molly writes about (many after a long and painful war) and their decisions are guided by a loving, protective inner voice.
I’ve forwarded this piece to my 17yo daughter. We’ll talk about it. Please consider doing the same, for yourself and those you love. Start the conversation – not about bodies but about freedom.