No resolutions this year.  Seems to me that’s an old approach with a high failure rate. 

 

This year will be different.  This year I’m going for Flow.   

 

“Flow” is a fascinating book about creating what the author calls “optimal experiences”.   This is a state of total involvement with life.   It is a process of controlling one’s inner experience, thereby personally defining, creating, and maintaining happiness.  Or any other state of being. 

 

In my professional experience, I have worked with hundreds who were sure that achievement of a certain goal would bring them happiness.  They invested time, energy, money, rearranged their lives, pursuing an idea. Sometimes it worked out. 

 

More importantly, sometimes it had an even better unintended consequence. In the course of pursuing this goal, as a side effect of their dedication their happy came early.  They found themselves enjoying the process.  In their pursuit, happy ensued.  When they got to the goal, the achievement was just icing on the cupcake.  Their life changed not simply as a result of the achievement, but as a matter of the course. 

 

This was my experience last year with the GW Parkway 10-Miler and the Baltimore 1/2 Marathon.  Total engagement with the experience.  At the finish line rather than being glad it was over, I wanted more. 

 

I’m still new at this Flow state. I’m reading and re-reading the book. But I’m hooked.  My life is lived in-between the instructions in my genes and the unpredictability (?) of the universe.  My perceptions of it all are shaped by many forces.  But those moments when I am in control of my own actions are exhilarating.  I want that. 

 

So I am starting 2012 focused on creating a state of being. Flow.  

 

I will SHIFT from controlling outcomes to creating experiences.

 

I will FOCUS on the clarity of what I’m trying to achieve. 

 

And I will EVOLVE.  Grow. Realize. Experience. 

 

What state are you going to create in 2012?

 

p.s  my first coaching group of 2012 begins January 30th.  It’s a weight loss coaching group, but weight loss is just the icing on the cupcake.  We’ll be creating much more.  See here:  Shift. Focus. Evolve.